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Post by Pammy on Mar 6, 2014 1:52:32 GMT
Do any of you ever feel overwhelmingly sad, for no apparent reason at all? I feel so ashamed to even admit this, because I have such a wonderful life. I feel terribly sad way too often. My husband knows, but keeping it hidden from my kids is hard work!
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Post by luvsanimals2 on Mar 6, 2014 2:08:44 GMT
Yes. All the time.
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Post by lisamarie on Mar 6, 2014 2:17:21 GMT
Glad I'm not the only one. I also randomly go insane.. Like seriously. My boyfriend will do something like just misspell a word and I flip out for no reason at all xD
I don't like the quote "there's always someone who has it worse than you so don't be sad" because then one can say, "there's someone who has it better than you so you can't be happy" I believe it's different for each person. We all fight our own battles, whatever they may be - big or small - and I feel as though you are put through what "god" (or whichever superior force, if any you believe in) knows you can make it through.
I'm not preaching religion, do not misunderstand. I'm catholic yes but I am by no means very "religious". I just feel you go through battles in like that you CAN get through. Some have it worse than others, yes, but that does not mean ones life is harder than the next.
(This is all just my opinion, no facts, no religion, just how I have collected info over my life so far)
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Post by santinoandmondo on Mar 6, 2014 2:27:32 GMT
I think this winter has been especially difficult for me. Maybe we have seasonal depression that is tied to the fewer daylight hours? All the "little" things in life that stress me out add up and weigh me down. I feel like I should be more appreciative but sometimes I just don't feel terribly happy.
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Post by Perla MV on Mar 6, 2014 4:43:41 GMT
I totally agree with Lisa's words, I hate it when I'm sad over what people might see as "a silly thing" and they say that other people have it worse, it's like a punch on my stomach! But well, about the sadness, I do have those days too, when I just feel so so down and I just keep thinking, looking for the reason but I realize there is none... I don't know, maybe our brain is just too tired to feel happy at the moment haha I used to feel like that very very often around 4 years ago, I used to break down a lot, I cried with no reason and was always so quiet and expressionless. That doesn't happen that often anymore though, my mood is good most of the time  I guess I just have awesome friends and classmates, and if they can't make me feel better, a call to my mom is always the best cure  |
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Post by Pammy on Mar 6, 2014 5:19:11 GMT
Thank you ladies, each of you, for your input.
I'm like this all the time, year round. It has nothing to do with the seasons or my period or how much sugar I consume. One day I'll be bubbly and happy and on top of the world, and the next day I struggle to keep tears out of my eyes. No apparent reason. Nothing is super big or super wrong. Little things, sure, but I let them pile together and overwhelm me. Sometimes I can name things that are bothering me, and other times there is truly nothing to be unhappy about. I'm just sad. Way too sad, way too much of the time. I do try to wear a happy mask, or at least a peaceful mask, because I don't want my kids to feel sad, too.
Not that I want anyone else to suffer from this, but it does help to talk about it and to know that I'm not the only one this happens to. Thanks for listening.
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Post by Perla MV on Mar 6, 2014 5:33:38 GMT
There's one thing I'm sure of, you will always find someone to talk to in this community, I might not be an expert and I might be very clumsy with my words but I know that listening (or in this case, reading) is always helpful when there's someone who needs to vent so don't feel ashamed to say how you feel, Pammy! We're here for you |
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Post by Sarah on Mar 6, 2014 7:10:46 GMT
Pammy, I may not be a mother, but I am a daughter. Maybe you should allow yourself to be more vulnerable to your children. I am there for my mom when things get tough, and when something is wrong. When I was younger she didn't do that, but I always knew there was something wrong anyway. It was worse not knowing. Let your kids be there for you like a friend. It will bring you closer, and trust me, if you are sad, they know about it anyway.
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Post by lisamarie on Mar 6, 2014 13:01:14 GMT
I agree with Sarah. Definitely should open up to at least Rachel (she's your oldest right?) I mean you should open up to all of them, but start with her.
My mom and I do NOT get along.... Ever. So I don't open up to her and she doesn't to anyone actually because she's like that. I can't wait to move out. It sounds awful but there's obviously reasons why and sometimes two people just will never see eye to eye no matter how closely related you are.
Anywayyy.. I would like to recommend something but I'm not sure if it something that would work for you. It works for me. Try to come up with an east workout routine. Nothing that puts too much stress on the body... Maybe something like basic yoga or just a very short 25 minute routine. I always find working out, to any degree, helps balance out my emotions. My emotions have been all out of wack for awhile now. But when I was a runner in highschool my mood was always neutral or happy. I used to think my negative emotions were running out of me when my feet hit the pavement. Pammy, maybe even just try walking! Last semester I'd walk almost every night. Only around my neighborhood. Maybe 20-45 mins. I went at night and it just helps SO much. Try it out. Either go very early morning or very late at night. (That's what I find the most relaxing). Really, it worked for me last semester!
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Post by luvsanimals2 on Mar 6, 2014 14:26:50 GMT
I think moving out would make me a overall a little bit happy but not completely. Hopefully this summer I can find a decent place to move, I can't afford much because of the limit of my hours.
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Post by Perla MV on Mar 6, 2014 17:29:43 GMT
Ok reading what Lisamarie said made me realize that maybe that's reason of the improvement of my mood these last few years, I dropped school at 16 years old and after that I went to an open high school (it's the literal translation for that type of high school here, it's kind of like finishing school via mail) Anway, when I started University I started walking a LOT, I had a car back in my hometown but I only used it if I was late for school or something then 2 years ago I moved out (where I am currently) and I don't have a car here, and this city is huuuge haha so I do walk a lot, and well, what else you do while walking? You think. Sometimes in those moments of thinking you actually find reasons and solutions, if I'm all sad or mad or anything when I leave school, for the time when I reach my apartment, it's all better So I would definitely vote(?) for Lisa's recommendation Luvs, do you live with your parents? I don't remember reading much about your personal life, I'm sorry if I'm being intrusive. |
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Post by dianapalmer on Mar 6, 2014 18:48:15 GMT
I empathize with those of you that are having difficulty with your parents.
I had a difficult relationship with my parents, especially my mother. I moved out when I was 19 yrs old, and it was difficult because I made a very low salary. But, it was much better than living with difficult parents.
I remember a point in my teenage years when I made a concerted effort to improve my relationship with my mother: offering lots of help with housework, trying to listen, etc. When I found that she would still have unreasonable bursts of negative mood and controlling behavior I gave up on her.
A few years after I moved out it became clear to my family that my mother was an alcoholic. She tried to recover, but never fully did. She was a difficult person in my life for as long as she was alive. I feel very sad for her; she never had the life she wanted.
I used to read things about ungrateful offspring that didn't do enough for their parents. I always felt that these stories did not necessarily have a basis in the entire picture.
I have lived with a depressive disorder for at least thirty years. I take medication, and it has improved the quality of my life significantly. I do not experience any side effects.
I visited a very close friend in New Jersey a couple of days ago. She has suffered from bipolar disorder for more than thirty years. She was close to suicide, despite having a loving husband and having achieved significant academic and career success. She has been on medication for many years, and the medication has definitely helped her.
Depression is a serious illness that should not be left untreated. It does not represent weakness or failure to live a good life. It is not one's fault. Untreated, it can have serious effects on one's health as well as one's mental state. I know many people are afraid of medication. I think these concerns are mostly unwarranted.
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Post by rdkntriker on Mar 6, 2014 19:30:00 GMT
I agree with all above, exercise can help, but as Diana said it is an illness that needs to be treated. See your Doctor and talk to them about it. the chemicals in our body can effect us a lot.
Remember it is nothing to be ashamed of and is a very normal illness in many people.
Hope I said what I wanted to say in a correct way.
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Post by luvsanimals2 on Mar 6, 2014 20:39:16 GMT
Ok reading what Lisamarie said made me realize that maybe that's reason of the improvement of my mood these last few years, I dropped school at 16 years old and after that I went to an open high school (it's the literal translation for that type of high school here, it's kind of like finishing school via mail) Anway, when I started University I started walking a LOT, I had a car back in my hometown but I only used it if I was late for school or something then 2 years ago I moved out (where I am currently) and I don't have a car here, and this city is huuuge haha so I do walk a lot, and well, what else you do while walking? You think. Sometimes in those moments of thinking you actually find reasons and solutions, if I'm all sad or mad or anything when I leave school, for the time when I reach my apartment, it's all better So I would definitely vote(?) for Lisa's recommendation Luvs, do you live with your parents? I don't remember reading much about your personal life, I'm sorry if I'm being intrusive. Yes, I try to walk every evening to see the sunset, It's about a half hour walk. I guess it helps. Oh, it's because I didn't post about it much lol. Yes, I live with my dad. |
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Post by Pammy on Mar 7, 2014 4:38:45 GMT
Thank you all for your thoughts on this matter. I saw my doctor today about some other issues he is helping me manage, insulin resistance, anemia, high blood pressure, and I briefly mentioned to him that in addition to feeling tired all of the time, I often feel sad. He said he wanted to check me for a Vitamin D deficiency. He said that most women's multivitamins have Vitamin D2, but that a lot of people need a lot more Vitamin D3. I sincerely hope it can be something as simple as that. So yeah, I'm dealing with multiple other medications right now and am afraid of pumping toooooooo much thru my poor liver.  I understand that antidepressants have helped many people feel happier, and that would be so worthwhile. Now that some of you mention it, I do remember feeling much happier and more at peace when I was faithfully walking on a daily basis. Exercise is something I struggle with, and something I do need to get back into my life. I know it will bring only good results all the way around. |
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I guess I just have awesome friends and classmates, and if they can't make me feel better, a call to my mom is always the best cure 
I understand that antidepressants have helped many people feel happier, and that would be so worthwhile.